Roten
Matthew reached out and gave Roten an affectionate pet.
"There is no doubt you are improving. Learning how to read others, however, will take time," Matthew offered softly. "Truthfully, I do not think his problems are so different from your own. He does not seem like someone who was given a healthy childhood or any sort of normal upbringing… and whether one likes it or not, understanding how a person was raised can reveal a great deal about why they act as they do."
His gaze drifted a little, turning the matter over with quiet care in his own thoughts...
"From what you have told me, and from what I have seen, it seems he places great importance on being valued; it may even form part of his identity. When that sort of structure is stripped away, he may simply not know where he belongs."
Matthew's fingers moved once through Roten's fur offering more gentle affection before he continued.
"I would also wager he is the sort who clings to blame when he cannot cling to purpose. For some people, guilt is easier to bear than uncertainty. If he can call himself a failure, then at least the world still makes sense to him; it gives him a place, even if it is a miserable one." He paused considering what else to offer...
"That sort often does not know what to do with gentleness, either. They expect correction, disappointment, punishment… something familiar. When they are not given that, they do not always feel relieved. Sometimes they only feel unsteady, because they do not know what else to expect. Some people are only ever taught they are useful when they perform well. Take away the task, or let them fail at it, and they begin to wonder whether they have any worth at all."
Matthew's hand lingered a moment, thoughtful in the motion Of petting Roten idly as he spoke...
"If he seemed unsettled by your help, it may not have been pride alone. You may not have meant to press him, but for someone like that, even a little weight can feel like the whole sky coming down. And kindness…" He trailed for a beat. "Some people learn early that kindness is rarely free... Kindness can unsettle them as much as cruelty does… because they are always waiting to discover its price."