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[Allyson Locke]

Stop apologizing.

You're a good writer, just gotta apply it.

 

[Kahlil Noble]

Gonna echo Allyson on this one. You made a bullet point list and tagged folks who responded to this thread because you want the affirmation that what you're doing will for sure work absolutely. That's never going to work that way, especially with RP. Take it from a fellow fickle altoholic who can drop threads and posts on a dime; your plans aren't going to work.

The stories you tell will never hit others the way you intend exactly how you intend them to. It's disheartening when it does happen that way, and I've lost the desire to RP because what I'm putting out isn't matching my intentions. That's only going to make it more difficult to keep going, and more importantly, keep people wanting to RP with you.

Rolling with the punches and adapting is the greatest skill you can learn. It's not about having thicker skin, it's about being able to see how others are viewing your posts and deciding that maybe that's a more fun story and choosing to go that way. It's an incredibly difficult thing to learn how to do if you're detail oriented like me, but it's invaluable as a skill for your own enjoyment.

As Yoda says, learn to let go. You can only control what you write, not how people will read it. Remember that the fun of RP is interacting with others. If they take it in a direction that's just not fun, talk to them.

But if there's anything you should take away from this, before anything else:

You have nothing to apologize for. You are writing for your own fun, your own enjoyment. If you're not and you stop writing, that's not something for you to ever feel sorry for.

So don't apologize for frustrating people. You're never going to please everyone 100% of the time, and if someone is expecting you to conform to what they think is the correct way to RP or the like, they aren't folks to write with. Just as you can't control how they will read it, they can't control how you will write.

 

[Novac Lyrikal]

write what you like/how you like. some will nlt like it, others will love it. dont force yourself to write a certain way to try and please as many people as you can. cuz if your not comfortable and having fun then whats the point : )

 

[Allyson Locke]

Another small note:

Writing partners are going to come and go, people have things IRL and sometimes just lose the muse to write the character. At the end of the day you always want to make sure your character can stand on her own two feet. So let your character become dependent on someone.

You got this, you've done it before and you can do it again.

 

[Kitter Bitters]

Thank you everyone. I wound just like to find a way to prove I can be fun and engaging and stick around so that people will give me a chance.

I do really appreciate your honesty and support. <3 you all are the best

 

[Novac Lyrikal]

if ya want i'd always be dome for some threads with whichever character you want : )

 

[Allyson Locke]

I wound just like to find a way to prove

Remove this from your thought process. Just write and have fun. Stop worrying about everyone else and how they look at you. Its like going to the gym and worrying about people judging you. 9/10x there's literally no one looking.

Have fun, the only person you need to care about is yourself.

 

[Kahlil Noble]

Writing partners are going to come and go, people have things IRL and sometimes just lose the muse to write the character. At the end of the day you always want to make sure your character can stand on her own two feet. So let your character become dependent on someone.

This is a big one that I wanna emphasize on my own because I have a roster of characters who have fallen for this trap (And one to Allyson specifically). It's dual sided. You should never make your character about someone else's, and you should be clear to avoid having someone depend on yours. Responsibility is a neat idea, but no one should make you feel like you have to write with them.

I wound just like to find a way to prove I can be fun and engaging and stick around so that people will give me a chance.

You have nothing to prove. I'm not gonna harp on it cause Allyson is also hitting the same notes, but yea. You owe no one anything. It's a hobby at the end of the day.

 

[Allyson Locke]

I have a roster of characters who have fallen for this trap (And one to Allyson specifically).

I am sorry

 

[Kahlil Noble]

I am sorry

Didn't we just go over this whole don't be sorry thing oml

 

[Allyson Locke]

Didn't we just go over this whole don't be sorry thing oml

That was the other brunette in the room.

 

[Kitter Bitters]

I guess I am kind of hard on myself. So many people delete characters, don’t finish threads, drop stories, change ideas, etc.

X__x I don’t know why I think I am the worst and only one.

 

[Allyson Locke]

The squeakiest wheel gets the grease.

In this case, because you are very vocal about removing characters, dropping threads, dropping stories, idea changes -- people are just more aware of it. Others just remove them or discuss it within the people they're writing with. It happens, like we've all stated. Just move on and keep going.

 

[Kitter Bitters]

I appreciate you Allyson Locke <3

 

[Vizion Trozky]

Hi everyone,

I really appreciate the help and discussion here. I think I have a good understanding of what my primary issue is, which is consistency and non flaking.

The problem I’m having is I’m not sure how to fix it.

So far this is what I’ve come up with:

• Do not start or run any groups for 1 year. This will give me time to develop characters , enhance other groups, and avoid going with ideas on a whim.
• Focus on first reply threads and LFG threads to find a handful of people who I really connect with in rp.
• Hold off on making new characters. Right now I have 5 that are solid. Kat, Kinley, Kuhbee, Gwen and Pari. Focus on developing them. If I get an itch to do something new try and find a way that one of THEM can do it, not a new character.
• Keep my 5 characters. Do not delete them.
• While I’m waiting on replies flesh out my characters in blogs more.
• Stop worrying when people get upset. I literally closed two factions because I got sick of getting harassed, but that makes others feel as though they have the rug pulled out from under them. Grow a thicker skin and don’t let the hate stop me (easier said than done).

I’m not sure what else to do though so if anybody has any other advice I would appreciate it. I do want to solve this issue.



Kahlil Noble Allyson Locke Vilka Keldra Novac Lyrikal Cadre Aselia Verd

Hey, Kitter Bitters

As someone who has had and still struggles with some similar issues and being neurospicy (not saying you are, but bear with me), self-imposed rules hardly work well for me because they rely on willpower to resist those consistent tendancies í have had, and you are having, without doing anything to attempt to truly address the issue.

Beleive me, I have been there, and done that.

So I have a suggestion: you could try to interrupt the ooh, shiny. How that works for you may be different from how it works for me, but here's how I do it:

• I create a new notepad document on my computer
• quickly write the few thoughts I have about the idea in that document
• save it and any corresponding images for the idea in a folder specifically for those ideas. For characters this is Character Ideas, and I make subfolder in that folder for each new character idea.

Then I leave the idea there, and pay attention to the characters and commitments to other writers and factions that I already have.

I don't tend to get faction ideas, but it'd work the same way, I imagine, for curbing those.

So, it's not perfect, I'm not 100% consistent with it, but it it has helped considerably. Most of the time the shiny thing doesn't have enough substance to break out of that folder. Sometimes it does. Sometimes it does, but not until months (or years) later.

All in all this has curbed that tendency to create things on a whim considerably over the past several years, down to roughly one new character per year, or less.

After that, I tend to scratch the itch with characters I've already created, by going back to characters I've dropped in the past and maybe reworking or reinventing them a little bit. I don't delete character accounts anymore, either, because invariably I'll likely either return to the character at some point or retcon them or reuse the subaccount for a different character entirely.

Reusing an existing subaccount for a new character (or bringing back an old one) forces me to consider whether I really want to go through with adding the character.

As I mentioned at the start, your mileage may vary, but why not give it a shot?

 

[Kitter Bitters]

Vizion Trozky thank you so much. You seriously have no idea how much hearing actual tangible ideas helps me.

Seriously you just helped me stop crying for the first time in hours. Sincerely thank you.

I will try to have a place where I can collect ideas. I think that might help me.